if only our men were taught to be husbands and fathers the family unit will be a better place. I was deep in taught about why so many marriages collapse these days and whose fault it is. I know that a lot of blame is placed on the woman if there is a breakup.
If her husband cheats on her she is blamed for it and expected to forgive him, if she cheats on her husband she is blamed and probably sent packing without any forgiveness from the husband and if the husband forgives her he never forgets and the home is never the same again. She is blamed if the children don't turn up right but if dey do the husband receives the kudos.
this has made me to think that if only our men were taught to be good husband and fathers and not just men, then our home will be a better place. There will be less discord in families. For instance at an early age d girl child is taught to be a woman, a wife to her husband, a mother to her children a care giver, she is taught to be humble to her husband and be tolerant and patient towards her husband's short comings.
To accept whatever she sees in her marriage as part of d marriage package.she is taught to be submissive 'to d point of being a door mat'. She is taught how to cook, wash, care, provide, iron and take care of her home. All these are good but my question is who trains d man or boy? Right from an early age d boy child is taught to be strong to be a 'man', a provider, the head or boss of his home. But one mistake that is made is that no one teaches him how to be a ' good husband', a good father no one teaches him how to 'love' his wife just as d bible instructed no one teaches him to be tolerant , be loving and understanding husband to their wives, to consider her feelings and accept whatever he sees in marriage as part of d package , TO BE FAITHFUL
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I think parents should start training their boys to become good husbands nd fathers and not just on how to be a man ' FOR NOT EVERY MAN CAN BE A GOOD HUSBAND AND FATHER BUT EVERY GOOD HUSBAND AND FATHER CAN BE A GOOD MAN'
