Scottish are responsible a mix of Italians, English and northern men. The thing to remember about guys - Canadian, American, Scottish or otherwise - is that they tend to show you how they feel. Afterwards, it is decided whether or not they are a couple or just a sad pathetic fumble in the u. In her quest to scottish women date into Scotland, Jennifer tries to understand why Scottish men are so hopeless at making the first move. If you don't know what it is, google it. As a Scot, I find what you have written there to be false, ridiculous and anon offensive. Also if you go lookibg to sleep with a man it is likely he will infact treat you like a one night stand.
In her quest to assimilate into Scotland, Jennifer tries to understand why Scottish men are so hopeless at making the first move. Why don't Scots play the dating game? My Scottish friend, Tim, confirmed what I have known for some time now: that Scottish people don't date. Afterwards, it is decided whether or not they are a couple or just a sad pathetic fumble in the dark. Generally there is a three to six date policy before sleeping with someone, depending on how skanky you are, how much you like the person etc. Obviously there are exceptions to the dating game. After a few dates and possible make out sessions , people in Toronto have that dreaded serious talk: the are-we-a-mutually-exclusive-couple-or-should-we-call-it-quits-so-I-can-make out-with-some-other-hot-lawyer-now?! As such, because of the widely accepted practice of courting, men in Toronto seem more apt at making the first move. Generally, if you are out somewhere and making hot bedroom eyes with a dude, he is more than likely to attempt and strike up a conversation and hopefully ask you out. Sadly, not so in Glasgow. The men over here are hopeless at making the first move; I don't know if it's some weird cultural thing that hearkens back to the middle ages, but dudes over here seem completely oblivious. And I don't care how many times someone says that Scottish men are just shy because I'm shy too. No one actively seeks rejection and heartbreak but, alas, it's a side effect of dating. Although most young people have very few concerns about shagging a near-stranger, a lot of Scottish men break into a cold sweat if you ask them out for a coffee. It's almost as if you're asking them to practically set a wedding date. This Culture of Seriousness extends into other aspects of Scottish life too. For example, this past Saturday my English friend and I went to a club in the West end. Although we dressed up, a lot of the other girls were completely styled to the nines with the latest fashions from Top Shop. We did not take ourselves seriously at all while it seemed like everyone else was. I'm not complaining nor am I making any judgements on either culture; I'm just trying to understand British men ugh and assimilate to the Scottish ways — without turning into a slag. I'm not the only North American woman to come to this conclusion either. I've linked to this before and even though she received a lot of harsh criticism for it, I think she is generally right. Fine print: Don't worry, Mom. You raised a good — and smart — daughter! They have to buy me dinner first! Jennifer is a Canadian living amongst the puckered pale flesh and scorching ginger hair of Glaswegians. Photo credit: Beer googles by ; Sssshhh by both Flickr. Expatica makes every effort to ensure its articles are as comprehensive, accurate and up-to-date as possible, but we're also grateful for any help! If you want to contact Expatica for any other reason, please follow the instructions on this website's. I'm an Italian living in England and come from a culture where men are known as red hot lovers in comparison to the men here. I also dated a Scotsman who not only never made any move let alone first, he was indecisive too. I think I'll stick to my country of Latin men! I think It is cultural at least being oblivious, not being a slag and as a Scot-American but having lived there for 5 years when I was in my 20's , I can attest without a woman practically clubbing me over the head, I have no clue. I get teased mercilessly about it by both my male and female friends.
